making friends

Now that S has started school, he has made a few new friends! Some live right up the street from us and others live a bit farther out, and he is having trouble understanding that not everyone can just walk on over to our house to play. It's cute but kind of sad when he gets upset that the only time he sees a few of them are during the week! They are becoming buddies and I'm glad to have them over but I never see any other these parents!

I've tried texting a few with no response and calling others with an awkward exchange. I want to invite the kids with the parents over, not a drop off play date, I'm not free babysitting, give me a break! So that got me thinking if the rest of his school years would be like that -- parents not interested in forming a relationship with other parents while the kids play together. Is that like a thing of the past? Is it going to be just as hard finding mom friends as it night be form my kid to make friends at school?

I was really looking forward to meeting new friends that we had our kids in common since the current mom friends I have live far away (23-25 miles west or east of us!) and have kiddos older or babies (seriously not one is the age of S or Z and for a while it was fine and worked but now its just not a great fit)! Not to mention they all work nearly 40 hours a week and their weekends are always booked (always! like I need to pencil in something a month in advance to hang out with them!). It was great to meet a few good moms while Z was at gymnastic lessons and S was going to preschool, but all those contacts have faded away, and believe me I have contacted those parents again and again to get together so the kids can play and we can get to know some new people, but every time I reach out I get nothing back! I get nothing back and it makes me sad for the kids more than anything!

It's hard making friends as a grown up! A lot harder than I thought it was going to be!

So what's a mom to do, how do you meet new friends as a grown up? Or the new trending term "tribe". I'm just a girl, looking for a tribe to call on for some adult conversation while the kids play and a couple or two for backyard hangouts so we don't have to spend money on a babysitter.
Well I came up with a few ideas, and found a couple others in my search!

Reconnect with old friends - Well I've been doing that with no avail so I'm not sure how that one works for other, but I'll keep it in my back pocket.

Connect with co-workers - Ok, that could work, most of my husbands are older with no kids, but it's possible. As for me, i work contract jobs and I don't even know who is in my area, it's like we are all mystery co-workers, I hear about them but have never met them!

Connections from social media - Hmmm, not sure about this, maybe a meetup dot com group is what this example is leaning toward? Local facebook page groups, that makes more sense, it's the same basic idea of chatting with a stranger at the playground or bar.

Volunteer - Yes, this is a great example that when the kids are old enough we will definitely utilize!

Take a class - That is on my goal list and I'm trying but between class times and budgets, it's another save for another time idea.

MOMS Club or MOPS - Yea, that worked great when S was born and I did make a few great people, but we were on the outskirts of the groups "area" so a bit much to drive toward Forest Park every other day for a play date and nobody came "all the way out" to our house for play dates which was very disappointing. Not to mention as soon as those kids hit 2 years old they were all in preschool/dayschool and S was left with the infants to play with! It works for awhile but not long term.

Your kids sports team - Yes, between swim lessons and baseball both coming up, these are two opportunities to reach out to other parents sitting and watching their kids to strike up something and over the weeks get together, for sure!

Patience. Not everyone is do gung-ho about making friends or new people in general. Stay connected but not clingy. Some might come around, some old friends might resurface, but remember this is the phase you are in right now. It might be for awhile but you still have your family unit, so just be patient.

I'D RATHER HAVE 4 QUARTERS THAN 100 PENNIES

xo

cozy restaurants around town

Today in St. Louis it was rainy and gusting winds. The raindrops hit your face like a pin speeding through the air, the rain seemed to let up, then down poured as soon as you stepped out of the car. And on top of all that, I had to do the grocery shopping with my 4 year old in tow!

As soon as we got home I made hot chocolate, we ate graham crackers, and snuggled under three blankets as we watched her favorite show. Now that is a much better way to spend this kind of day!
Then I starting thinking about what I was going to cook for dinner. Something cozy and comforting and I hoped that this weather would subside this weekend, because Joe and I have a date night! We still haven't figured out where we want to go for dinner or if we want to check out what events are happening around town, but the more I talk about it, just staying at one nice little cozy restaurant with a fabulous meal and a few wonderful drinks, sounds so relaxing! Just talk and share a meal in a corner to ourselves ... away from everyday life ... aahhh! Ok, I'm sold, where is this gem of a place!!

~The Schlafly Tap Room, opened in 1991, was the first brewery to open in Missouri since Prohibition, paving the way for more breweries in St. Louis. There are generally around 16-18 hand-crafted beers available on tap in the historic building. Live music can be heard on the weekends and the restaurant regularly hosts events, such as the Belgian Beer and Mussel Festival, Oyster Fest and various beer tastings!

~Dressel's, it's a St. Louis institution, one of the very best spots in town for a pint of good beer and cultured conversation. Without robbing Dressel’s of any of its charms, its food is one of the best in town. The dishes are elegant and deeply flavored, and with tree fireplaces throughout the pub, you can find a cozy corner for a great night out!

~Blondie's, has some of life's best comforts -- coffee, wine and dessert -- at this cute downtown cafe. After a meal on Washington Ave. you can enjoy your indulgences fireside for an extra dose of awesome!

~Chava's, this Mexican restaurant rose from the ruins of perennial Soulard dive, but it wasn't a bad trade-off at all. Chava's menu keeps things short and to the point: tacos, a fajita platter, a burrito, an enchilada, a tostada, etc. and along with their great chips and salsa, is an excellent night of Dos Equis Amber and conversation!

~SqWires, built into part of the renovated Western Wire Products factory in Lafayette Square, they focus on simple, spirited food. The happy hour is pretty solid with above average drink offerings group-friendly food like plates are easy to share, and each offers something for someone. SqWires'  is an American restaurant is a great place for food, cocktails and live music -- all while enjoying the huge modern fireplace that fits in beautifully against the historic backdrop!

~Tapped, is the first self-pour bar in the St. Louis area, offering not only 39 beers and eight wines, but even one tap of cold-pressed coffee. Upon arrival, you check in at the hostess stand and open a tab. You then get a bracelet, simply by tapping it on the tablet screen behind each tap, you're accessing your account and allowing the system to monitor your pour. You can draw exactly as much as you want, a full glass, a few swigs, even just a sip or two, and you'll be charged by the ounce. Tasting notes are included on each screen for those who like to educate themselves and those who'd rather talk their way through a decision can ask the staff! 

~Fox & Hound Tavern, located in the Cheshire Inn, this English-style pub is the place to kick back with some good friends and good drinks. Relax with some whisky or scotch by the fire, and let the evening melt away!

~Rosalita's, they offer a signature table-side guacamole made right in front of you or a piled high nachos and a full array of classic Mexican dishes and more modern specialties. The house margaritas are the best in town, and the gorgeous interior with hanging lanterns and covered booths make for a hide-a-way among the crowd on a Saturday night!

~Hendrick's, It feels odd to call a cuisine as essentially American as barbecue not merely trendy, but hot right now! Yet if you have any doubts, Hendricks BBQ provides the proof! This massive place sits down from the rest of St. Charles Main Street but is an awesome find with great ambiance, loft seating, huge skylight and a tucked away space for live music! You could spend time in here bouncing from one section of the restaurant to another and have a cozy evening together!

EAT, DRINK & BE COZY

xo

so many books!

I have been a lot better about finding time to read over the last couple years than I ever have before! I don't know why, but after high school I never went to the library to check out the latest book from anyone's top best books of the month/year/decade whatever. I read from time to time in college but I never got into a certain genera or had a favorite theme I really got immersed in. I never felt left out of a conversation because I didn't read non-fiction on a regular basis, even through all the Harry Potter mania, and I never had the urge to go check out what all the fuss was about. I did enjoy the movies and hearing about how parts were different from the books and I do go see movies that are from books, but never find myself wanting to read the book first before ever seeing the film version.

I don't know, I guess I like informative articles from a magazine or the newspaper instead!

But I've been able to find some really great deals on books, which I prefer since it takes me months to get trough one book, as well as the library for sale cart and other used book fairs around town. My favorite is Thiftbooks.com, they have great prices as well as HalfPriceBooks.com and HPB has two locations in my area on days I can be by myself to browse! Another place I go for books is Savers. If you do not have one near you or you just haven't stopped in, you are missing out!

This year in St. Louis County, all the libraries have been remodeled! Some have a much better atmosphere than what was, others look awful compared to how they were and that is disappointing! Still most have added space to the existing building including an interactive kids area that is half playground, BUT you still need to use an inside voice ... library rules still apply! Speaking of, people don't understand that and still talk so loud on their phones and don't give a rats ass!! That might have to be another topic for another post!

So my 2019 book list, and i hope I can get through the majority of these titles this year, are as follows ...

Witness by Ruth Gruber. I caught the last part of a documentary on PBS about her and had to find out more! With her perfect memory (and plenty of zip), ninety-five-year-old Ruth Gruber—adventurer, international correspondent, photographer, maker of (and witness to) history, responsible for rescuing hundreds of thousands of Jewish refugees during World War II and after—tells her story in her own words and photographs.
Gruber’s life has been extraordinary and extraordinarily heroic. She received a B.A. from New York University in three years, a master’s degree from the University of Wisconsin a year later, and a Ph.D. from the University of Cologne (magna cum laude) one year after that, becoming at age twenty the youngest Ph.D. in the world (it made headlines in The New York Times; the subject of her thesis: the then little-known Virginia Woolf).

In Witness, Gruber writes about what she saw and shows us, through her haunting and life-affirming photographs–taken on each of her assignments– the worlds, the people, the landscapes, the courage, the hope, the life she witnessed up close and firsthand: the Siberian gulag of the 1930s and the new cities being built there (Gruber, then untrained as a photographer, brought her first Rolleicord with her) . . . the Alaska highway of 1943, built by 11,000 soldiers, mostly black men from the South (the highway went from Dawson Creek, British Columbia, 1,500 miles to Fairbanks) . . . her thirteen-day voyage on the army-troop transport Henry Gibbins with refugees and wounded American soldiers, escorting and then photographing the refugees as they arrived in Oswego, New York (they arrived in upstate New York as Adolf Eichmann was sending 750,000 Jews from Hungary to Auschwitz).

A Wrinkle In Time by Madeleine L'Engle. I surprisingly never read this one in school! Winner of the Newbery Medal in 1963, is the story of the adventures in space and time of Meg, Charles Wallace, and Calvin O'Keefe (athlete, student, and one of the most popular boys in high school). They are in search of Meg's father, a scientist who disappeared while engaged in secret work for the government on the tesseract problem.

Furiously Happy by Jenny Lawson. I was looking for a humorous story about everyday life to relate to and found this! In Furiously Happy, a humor memoir tinged with just enough tragedy and pathos to make it worthwhile, Jenny Lawson examines her own experience with severe depression and a host of other conditions, and explains how it has led her to live life to the fullest:

"I've often thought that people with severe depression have developed such a well for experiencing extreme emotion that they might be able to experience extreme joy in a way that ‘normal people' also might never understand. And that's what Furiously Happy is all about."

You Are Here by Thich Nhat Hanh. A friend of mine talked about this book and I thought I would see what it was all about! In this book Thich Nhat Hanh, the renowned Zen monk, author, and meditation master, distills the essence of Buddhist thought and practice, emphasizing the power of mindfulness to transform our lives. “Mindfulness is not an evasion or an escape,” he explains. “It means being here, present, and totally alive. It is true freedom—and without this freedom, there is no happiness.” Based on a retreat that Thich Nhat Hanh led for Westerners, this book offers a range of simple, effective practices for cultivating mindfulness, including awareness of breathing and walking, deep listening, and skillful speech. You Are Here also offers guidance on healing emotional pain and manifesting real love and compassion in our relationships with others.

Wildflower by Drew Barrymore. I love Drew, what can I say! Wildflower is a portrait of Drew's life in stories as she looks back on the adventures, challenges, and incredible experiences she’s had throughout her life. It includes tales of living in her first apartment as a teenager (and how laundry may have saved her life), getting stuck under a gas station overhang on a cross-country road trip, saying good-bye to her father in a way only he could have understood, and many more journeys and lessons that have led her to the successful, happy, and healthy place she is today.

The Awakened Family by Shefali Tsabary. I needed a parenting book that wasn't a typical parenting book and came across this which made me happy there are alternative and empowering parenting books out there! We all have the capacity to raise children who are highly resilient and emotionally connected. However, many of us are unable to because we are blinded by modern misconceptions of parenting and our own inner limitations. In The Awakened Family, I show you how you can cultivate a relationship with your children so they can thrive; moreover, you can be transformed to a state of greater calm, compassion and wisdom as well. This book will take you on a journey to transcending your fears and illusions around parenting and help you become the parent you always wanted to be: fully present and conscious. It will arm you with practical, hands-on strategies and real-life examples from my experience as a parent and clinical psychologist that show the extraordinary power of being a conscious parent. 

The Paris Wife by Paula Mclain. I really like this era in thw world and I saw this on a book list awhile back, so finally, I picked it up! Chicago, 1920: Hadley Richardson is a quiet twenty-eight-year-old who has all but given up on love and happiness—until she meets Ernest Hemingway. Following a whirlwind courtship and wedding, the pair set sail for Paris, where they become the golden couple in a lively and volatile group—the fabled “Lost Generation”—that includes Gertrude Stein, Ezra Pound, and F. Scott Fitzgerald. Though deeply in love, the Hemingways are ill prepared for the hard-drinking, fast-living, and free-loving life of Jazz Age Paris. As Ernest struggles to find the voice that will earn him a place in history and pours himself into the novel that will become The Sun Also Rises, Hadley strives to hold on to her sense of self as her roles as wife, friend, and muse become more challenging. Eventually they find themselves facing the ultimate crisis of their marriage—a deception that will lead to the unraveling of everything they’ve fought so hard for. A heartbreaking portrayal of love and torn loyalty, The Paris Wife is all the more poignant because we know that, in the end, Hemingway wrote that he would rather have died than fallen in love with anyone but Hadley.

And before New Years Eve festivities came to, I finish Crash Test Girl by Kari Byron, so awesome and funny! I love Mythbusters, always have, and she was amazing to see along with the M5 Industries crew testing all sorts of fun stuff! Happy reading in 2019 everyone!

BOOKS ARE UNIQUELY PORTABLE MAGIC

xo

oily lady

I love essential oils! Have I mentioned that before ?! {lol} 

This year I have really tried to switch over so much of our household to essential oils instead of buying things like a veggie wash, hand soap, and dryer sheets, and I think I've kept up pretty well too!

My new favorite that I really like, is making hand soap. You don't need anything special, the pump from the old bottle or snagging a glass bottle with pump top from Amazon, castile soap from Target and boiled water from the kettle. Why do I have a kettle if I'm not a tea drinker you ask ... french press, of course! Fill up the dispenser 3/4 with castile soap the rest with water, add Lavender, or Thieves, or Tea Tree EO along with vitamin E oil and there you have it! Super simple and my hands are clean and moisturized!

So my veggie cleaner is another super simple recipe and I feel much better about slicing up some peppers and broccoli to feed the kids then I ever have before! All I do is fill a bowl or sink basin with cool water, add 2 drops of Thieves EO along with a tablespoon of apple cider vinegar, add the fruit and veggies and swirl around before letting them sit for about 5 minutes. Then I take each one out to pat dry and let sit on a towel on the counter if it needs extra drying time. I usually do this right when I get home from grocery shopping, I make a pile of produce as I go through the bags putting everything else away and then they are all right there to clean!

Then I have my counter cleaner that is really great for any surface ... fridge shelves, fridge door, stove top, dining table. Again a glass bottle, this time with a spray top, from Amazon along with Young Living Thieves Cleaner and I follow the directions on the back of that for potency, which is usually half cleaner and half water. There is no grimy residue and the kitchen smells so fresh with out a gross chemical smell that I'm afraid to put said produce in a pile on!

Two of my most favorite ways to use essential oils for cleaning is in the laundry and for the carpet!
Get a pack of wool dryer balls and ditch the dryer sheets because there are so many great combos of scent you can add to those dryer balls any day of the week!

~Purification

~Orange & Joy
~Stress Away & Lime
~Lavender & Citrus Fresh
~Rosemary & Lavender
~Lemon & Basil

The list goes on! And these EO scents can be used in a carpet cleaner of borax and baking soda mixed together. Shake on the carpet (I save parmesan cheese shaker containers for this) and let sit for 30 minutes then vacuum up! 

Check out my Pinterest page for lots more ideas on using essential oils for your home and if you are interested in ordering, click here!

But if you are still skeptical about all the essential oils hype and why so many people are using them, I have a couple of great reads, a guide about how they work that I think you should check out.

THERE'S AN OIL FOR THAT!

xo

potty training! (oh what fun)

I decided over the summer that we would not start potty training Z until after the holidays because we planned on going to visit relatives and fun outings like Christmas light walks, festivities on Main Street, and Kiener Plaza activities. There would be so many headaches bringing a potty seat, finding a bathroom, or dealing with port-a-potty (YUCK). So I just wanted to make it easy and after the holiday hooplah start into all that fun stuff, since we don't do much of anything in January and February.

BUT ... little lady decided that after I bought her underwear in September (because I plan that far ahead and I had a coupon!) that she wanted to try them on for a day and thought they were so awesome (like big brothers!), that she only had two accidents that day and she wanted to try again! Well I was pleasantly surprised that after a week of wearing her undies and telling me she felt the urge to potty, she was in undies by the end of the month! Each day she had maybe three accidents but most were small as she was in the bathroom already, just close calls before hoping on the toilet!

I was so proud of her and I couldn't believe it! With S it took a little bit longer and there were more accidents, even after doing really well for a weeks time, so I was expecting about the same for her. With both kids I started just a day here or there putting them in underwear just to see how they would be and so they could get a feel for what it's all about. A few other things I did to get ready for potty training are all the "go-to" standards I've read all around ...

~Let them pick out their underwear

~Have books about the potty and their usual books in the bathroom (Potty by Leslie Patricelli and My Big Girl Undies by Karen Katz are great!)

~Make a chart and get lots of stickers

~Put out the potty seat and step stool all the time everyday so they can see it's easy and ready for them

~Small prizes for sitting and/or using the toilet (we did M&M's, small, not too expensive, always fun!)

~Progressively larger prizes for milestones like staying dry all day, staying dry all week, etc

I also made it a rule to only sit on the carpet with no blankies or pillows or anything else because it would be a hassle to clean up! There were a few days we tried walking abound bottomless but that didn't seem to make any difference to them and did not help the process. Luckily, our September was slowing down from summer craziness and the only thing we had was gymnastics class, so it was a nice ease into making sure we go before we leave the house or before class starts and it was an environment that was familiar, where if there was an accident, it was no big deal! I feel that both of those aspects helped her too.

Now the diaper bag is lighter and it is awesome!! I still feel the need to carry it with a change of clothes for both and I'm so used to carrying it on my back all these years, it would feel weird to change over to a purse!

There is still the hurdle of overnight potty training that we are in the midst of with S who is 6. For awhile we decided to do pull ups and try to keep those dry overnight but there was no difference, so then we moved onto an alarm that he wears around his upper arm that vibrates and lights up when the wetness indicator is tripped. The alarm sometimes wakes him up, so we have determined he is a heavy sleeper. I set the alarm to light up and to beep the last couple weeks and it is loud enough to wake me up and help him get up and go to the bathroom, but most of the time it's just an alarm for me to go get him up to change the sheets and his pj's! {sigh}

There is barely anything to read about how to overnight potty train! I have looked for months and have come up empty handed, so if you have an article to suggest, by all means PLEASE! Basic common sense stuff is all I can find, like no drinks after dinner or just a sip in the evening. Also going potty just before getting into bed and waking him up and taking him to the bathroom just before we go to bed. Which by the way, that only works if you feel like getting kicked in the face at 11-ish at night! He is such a heavy sleeper that he gets angry when woken up and fights me when I gently rub his back and lift him to sitting up!

I'm really at a lose for overnight potty training, so for now it's either washing sheets and pj's all the time or spending money on pull ups! But at least both kiddos are diaper-free during the day now!

ACHIEVING MILESTONES ONE KID AT A TIME

xo

moms night in

I've been trying to get together with friends and every so often I have a good conversation with them in the midst of figuring out when to meet up, but then a date for an evening out never comes to light. Which is fine, everyone has lots going on, a kids gets sick, the day gets to you, I have been all of there and done all of that. So, it got me thinking of fun "mom" movies and maybe hosting a Mom Movie Night In might work out better!

Then I staring thinking of movies for this idea of an event with friends! A lot of good ones came to mind and I will share my favorites with you now ...

Fun Moms Dinner ~ Four preschool moms with little in common need a night out to take a break from their kids, but one thing leads to another and things get rowdy! Really silly and heartwarming and such a great cast!

Freaky Friday ~ An overworked mother and her daughter do not get along. When they switch bodies, each is forced to adapt to the other's life for one freaky Friday! I'm partial to the original with Jodi Foster but I got to say the updated version is really good, and Jamie Lee Curtis is fantastic at whatever role she is plays! 

Mother's Day ~ As Mother's Day nears, a group of seemingly unconnected people in Atlanta come to terms with their relationships with their mothers! I love the kind of movie where the characters seem distant but end up all connected and this cast makes for a fun movie!

What To Expect When Your Expecting ~ Follow the lives of five interconnected coupes as they experience the thrills and surprises of having a baby and realize that no matter what you plan for, life does not always deliver what is expected! Hands down one of the funniest parenting movies out there! 

The Meddler ~ A widow from New York City follows her daughter to L.A. in hopes of starting a new life after her husband passes away.  Susan Sarandon and Rose Byrne are heartwarming and hilarious!

Mother and Daughters ~ Interwoven stories about what it means to be a mom, which are tied together by a single gal photographer who is riding a career high when an unlike;y and unexpected pregnancy forces her to turn her lens inward. Beautifully done an poignant!

Ricki and the Flash ~ It's been a roller-coaster ride for Ricki, a one-time wife and mother of three who left her family behind to follow her dreams of rock 'n' roll stardom in California. Now, the singer and guitarist must face the music when she returns home to Indiana to reconnect with ex-husband, troubled daughter, engaged son and younger son. Filled with regret, Ricki hopes to find redemption for all of the bad choices that she made in the past! Meryl Streep is amazing and this is an oddly moving, funny movie!

Stepmom ~ A story of an unlike;y friendship that develops between two remarkable women, one the ex-wife and the other the current girlfriend who continually clash over the well-being of the children. What can i say, i like Susan Sarandon! Both her and Julia Roberts make this movie a heartwarming drama to root for both women!

The Guilt Trip ~ A son is about to embark on a road trip of a lifetime when a quick stop at his mom's house turns into an unexpected cross country voyage with her along for the ride! So funny through and through!

Baby Mama ~ A successful single business woman who dreams of having a baby discovers she is infertile and hires a working class woman to be her unlikely surrogate! Amy Poehler and Tina Fey ... enough said!

Mama Mia ~ The stage show turn movie about a bride-to-be trying to find her father and the lighter side of a mother-daughter relationships! Great fun and Meryl Streep, again, amazing along with the fantastic cast!

Riding In Cars With Boys ~ The fresh, funny, touching and true story of writer Beverly Donofrio reveals her coming of age in the late 1960s and her whole life colored by an event that happened when she was 15. Spanning more than two decades, as the young heroine experiences often-humorous, sometimes-irreverent, but certainly a unique personal journey to make something meaningful of her life. Beautiful movie with Drew Barrymore!

Because I Said So ~ An unconditionally loving, but meddling, mother whose vain attempt to prevent her youngest daughter from repeating the same mistakes that she made, leads to a series of comic misunderstandings! The entire cast of this funny and charming movie are wonderful to watch!

Bad Moms ~ When three overworked and under appreciated moms are pushed beyond their limits, they ditch their conventional responsibilities for a jolt of long overdue fun, freedom, and comic self-indulgence! The best "mom" movie ever! Do yourself a favor and watch it now!

Oh to be a mom and have life played out on the big screen! But way more glamorous and amusing than reality, am I right!?

LIFE DOESN'T COME WITH A MANUAL, IT COMES WITH A MOTHER

xo

cries for help

Do you ever feel like you can't put up with one more scream? Or one more nasty sounding "please"? Or one more whining cry about the bowl the applesauce is in, is the wrong color? No, you just can't take it anymore? Hey, me too!

I feel as if it's a weird abusive relationship that I'm stuck in. Nobody is happy that I have made their peanut butter and jelly sandwich because today a triangle cut sandwich is not what they wanted, even though for the past week that was perfectly fine. Nobody is content with having cereal for breakfast because the bowl or the spoon is the wrong color even though they have never been picky about that sort of thing until today. Nobody wants to put on their pants because, honesty I don't even know why because at that point I was so done with the both of them I went downstairs to warm up my coffee so I could stay somewhat sane for the rest of the morning. 

Yep, it wasn't even 10AM and I was about ready to loose my shit.

Everyday something gets blown out of proportion and turns into a 30 minute whining, screaming meltdown! I offer solutions and remind them to use their words because Mommy is not a mind reader and the day is filled of ungrateful, hostile actions and words!

Now, some of you are probably saying to yourself, "what brats you have"
and I say to you, well gold star on your sweet little angels that are obedient little saints 100% of the time, bravo ... 
Because let's face it, they are not and you are lying to everyone if you say they are.

I don't know why all this started, and I feel like it's been creeping up the last few months, but I don't think it is a behavioral issue that I need to call the pediatrician on, but I think it's more than chalking it up to a phase they are going through {SIGH} either way, it needs to stop because I am exhausted by this nonsense everyday and it is overwhelming for me. So much so, that by the time they are in bed, after putting up a fight about anything and everything you could imagine, I just want to collapse and not wrap up important things that need to be done. 

This is draining, and most days I'm the only one with them. When Joe gets home, he plays with the kids and helps around the house and witnesses the evening portion of the fiasco that has been my entire day, but I don't think he fully understands. I'm dazed and perturbed and bewildered as to what I could have done differently and disheartened as I stare aimlessly at the to-do list and eventually weep while sitting on the sofa watching tv because I'm at a loss of what to do. What to do about chores before I need to go to bed. What to do about the kids attitude for tomorrow. What to do about talking to Joe and coming up with a solution. 

Wake up earlier to set a pleasant mood? Worth a try
Keep calm and deep breathes? That might work for a while
Steady regular voice no matter what? Maybe
So I looked up a few articles and the best one that I liked, came from my favorite podcast duo, Megan and Sarah of The Mom Hour! They don't post on this site anymore but this was a great read and if you want more of The Mom Hour, check out LifeListened! More great helpful advice came from this wonderful post that is just good 'ol self-care centered that I need reminding of from time to time.

Tomorrow is another day and they won't stay little for much longer, so create a home where everyone thrives and stick with the family rules because what they are taught now, sticks with them forever.

RAISING KIDS IS A WALK IN THE PARK ... JURASSIC PARK

xo